"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
Where's Your Goat
Still Gettable?
Your triggers aren't obstacles. They are the map to your freedom. If it can rattle you, it owns you.
"Life will continue to bring you people and circumstances to show you where you are not free."
The Signal, Not the Problem
You don't have to be in a relationship to do relationship work. Because what triggers you in someone else is just showing you what's still unhealed in you.
That's the work—not fixing the other person, but asking: "Why does this matter?"
If it didn't matter, it wouldn't shake you. Wouldn't rattle you. Wouldn't get your goat.
But when it does? That's your signal. It's not the problem—it's the mirror.
The Pattern Hunter's Checklist
- What specific behavior triggered me?
- What old feeling did this bring up?
- When was the first time I felt this?
- What belief about myself is being threatened?
- If this didn't matter, who would I be?
Iron Sharpens Iron
Relationships are the friction that polishes the blade. We attract people who rub us the wrong way on purpose—so we can smooth out the rough edges of our own ego.
The Victim Trap
"Why does this keep happening to me? Why do I always find the narcissists/addicts/cheaters?"
Result: Repeating the Cycle
The Pattern Hunter
"I see that I attracted this dynamic to show me where I still don't respect myself. Thank you for the lesson."
Result: Breaking the Code
Ready to Stop Chasing and Start Healing?
You can't fix what you can't see. Let's find the patterns together.
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