You Don't Need Fixing.
You Need Remembering.
For over three decades, I've helped people see what they couldn't see on their own—the patterns running their lives, the thorns they're protecting, the cups they're draining.
What I Talk About
I don't come with a formula. I come with a mirror.
Whether your audience is deconstructing their faith, stuck in relationship patterns they can't break, or trying to understand why they keep ending up in the same place—I help them see the root, not just chase the fruit.
The work I do centers on **awareness over effort**. Most people are trying to fix themselves when what they really need is to see the pattern that's been running their lives since before they had words for it.
I talk about:
- • **The Love Wound Imprint** — how we learn love before we have language, and how that imprint shapes every relationship we enter
- • **The Thorn and the Cage** — why we build entire systems to protect our pain instead of dealing with it
- • **The Overflow Cup** — the difference between living from want vs. living from should, and why self-care doesn't work when your cup is empty
- • **Recovering from Religion** — what happens when you leave the church but not God, and how to deconstruct without losing your foundation
- • **Pattern Hunting** — how to work backward from the fruit to the root, and why trying harder keeps you stuck
Why This Work Matters
Most people spend their lives managing symptoms—chasing better partners, better jobs, better strategies—without ever seeing the pattern underneath.
My work isn't about giving people answers. It's about helping them see what they've been too close to see. Once you see the pattern, you can't unsee it. And when the pattern breaks, everything changes.
I've spent over 30 years doing this work—first in churches, then in private practice, now with individuals, couples, and communities. The method is simple: hold up the mirror, ask the right questions, and let awareness do the heavy lifting.
What Makes This Different
I'm not a motivational speaker. I'm not here to pump you up or give you a five-step plan.
What makes this work different is **restraint**. I don't tell people what to do. I help them see what's already there. The insight comes from them, not from me.
I draw from decades of work with Anthony de Mello's *Awareness*, A.S. Neill's *Summerhill*, and my own 30+ years of coaching individuals and couples through the deeper layers of their patterns. But I don't come with a system to sell. I come with questions that reveal what you already know but haven't been able to see.
The tone is **subtle, Southern, sophisticated**—not preachy, not self-help, not hokey. I use stories, metaphors, and real-life examples that land without lecturing. The goal is always the same: help people see the pattern so they can stop repeating it.
Who I Speak To
I speak to audiences navigating:
- • **Deconstruction and post-evangelicalism** — progressive churches, spiritual communities, and groups healing from religious trauma
- • **Relationship patterns** — conferences, retreats, and communities focused on healing, growth, and awareness
- • **Personal evolution** — anyone tired of chasing fruit and ready to lay the axe at the root
Whether it's a keynote, a workshop, or a multi-day retreat—virtual or in-person—I tailor the content to your audience and the questions they're actually asking.
Let's Talk About Your Event
If you're hosting a church service, a conference, or a retreat and this resonates, I'd love to hear what you're building and see if I'm the right fit.